Recently, I have been asking myself one and the same question over and over again: How many of us think of happiness and truly enjoy it when it shows up on our threshold? Where lies the reason for us to postpone the joy of life and why, once it is on our threshold, we hush it away as a homeless beggar from the street?
Being a girl myself, I can tell, all young girls spend long sleepless nights passionately dreaming about being happy, being in love, being with someone who shares this love with you... But when it comes right into your hands, right into your life, it hardly seems to be true and looks more like a dream which will end up once the sun shows up on the horizon. Why being happy and having all that we have been begging and longing for is not wanted once we have it all?
Face that. Whatever you are dreaming about, longing for, deep in your heart you are keeping the hope it will never come true. Why would you do that? Why would you punish yourself when you truly believe it must show up, for you deserve it and you know you deserve it?
Why when we get into a relationshup which seems to be "too good to be true" we cross the fingers in hope it will never go away, planning your break-up words in the meantime? Why do we not believe in happiness?
I used to know a person who would make up reasons for fights with her boyfriend when she felt their relationship was too still and uneventful. What did her boyfriend do? I knew him as a very sweet good-natured guy who was good enough for any girl, who could appreciate him. Well, as the fights would go on, he was going "to pack his things" and go, even though their passion seemed to me unbreakable. A month after their offcial break-up, which followed by a long series of long late night calls from her, I started to feel irritated at how that person could manipulate not only her life but also her exbf's life and now mine to get her suggestion that every couple had to suffer prooved. I am no longer in touch with this person for a different reason and as far as I have heard she keeps on having short affairs with guys whom I would not look into eyes, and you would call "bastards". This way, I know she satisfies her need of having troubles and fights on a regular basis and moreover, manifesting the world that "all men are real bastards, commitment phobics and emotional fuckwits".
If you are following the same relationship pattern, either with your partner or your friends, isnt it about the time to stop looking for worse and start looking for better?
When are you going to break the stereotype and say: "I love men, they are adorable!" or "Women are God's creatures!"
Dont let your happiness stand waiting for you to open the door on the threshold, just open it and let it in and host it with joy!
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You make point talkin' 'bout a generalized fear to hapiness. Though, in most of times, I've seen that the thing is, that people doesn't really what happyness stands for in every personal case. I mean, one's supposed to want an easy-going-steady-state-sugar-coeated relationship, so, I'll say that's what I want to be happy, I'll move in that direction and when approachin' my goal, I'll start to sabotage myself, 'cause that's really not my choice, I may be totally unaware about what's then my choice, but I haven't honestly placed myself in that scenario, thus when the "happy life" play is about to start, I'll get off the stage. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm just speculating. I still haven't found myself on the plain self-sabotage campaign, but I've seen that behavior in a relationship: it does really suck: "you said you wanted this, now that we can have it, you are not sure, wtf is that supposed to mean?!", it means, I really didn't mean that I wanted that, 'cause I don't even know what I want... tssss! :p Anyway, no more speculations, good post Anna, have fun, chau.
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